This article was PERFECT to conclude this course. Being an ally is all about supporting a group of individuals and fighting for justice and what is right. In the article, Ayvazian says an ally is "a member of a dominant group in our society who works to dismantle
any form of oppression from which she or he receives the benefits." Examples include white heterosexual men supporting gay men, or even men supporting women. Ally's are everywhere!
http://www.glaad.org/resources/ally
Laters,baby
Thursday, December 6, 2012
I am Sex Positive (Event 2)
On November 27th, I was able to attend an event
that Dee had regarding sex and how to have better sex. It was appropriately titled "Dirty deeds with Dee". I was accompanied by
several other classmates and we had a blast. We talked about everything, and I
mean everything. I really enjoyed how open everyone was about their sexuality
and how no one was afraid to ask any type of questions. Experiencing this made
me realize that everyone in this “sex talk” seemed to be sex positive. The
article that I want to refer back to is the sex positivity one and 8 ways to
tell you’re sex positive. There are several of those points that I want to
reflect on.
“Know
Thyself” is the first point I want to touch on. During the sex talk, we talked
a lot about knowing yourself and what you like. If you don’t know what you like
or what you want, how do you expect your partner to know or be able to tell
them what you want? As stated in the article, “I do think it’s important to
always dig into your own emotions/mind/psyche and assess: What is this doing
for me? How do I feel afterward?” I feel like this perfectly identifies with
what we talked about at this event.
Secondly,
we talked about consent and what counts as someone consenting to a sexual act.
To be sex positive means that both parties are equally consenting and
“enthusiastically” consenting to engage in an activity. If one person notices
the other is only going along with the motions to make them happy, they stop
and don’t push the limits. The Fifty Shades of Grey series was talked about at
this event and how that portrays a negative outlook on BDSM and consent. Dee
was able to pass around a book that was more focused on the beauty of consent
and it was portrayed in a positive light. “Consent is sexy in lots of forms”.
Lastly,
we discussed how sex for people can be a completely different experience. What turns you on may be different from what
turns someone else on. People have fetishes and sometimes they are seen as
wrong or disgusting. As Mike said in class, “don’t yuck someone’s yum”. At the event, we briefly touched on fetishes
and I was taken aback by a few, but I was able to look at them in a positive
notion and know that just because it’s not what I’m into, someone else
potentially could be.
I really feel like this class, and the sex positivity article, helped with being able to identify as being sex positive. I enjoyed hearing about everyone's experiences (as weird as that might sound) and the crazy yet totally normal questions my classmates would ask. Sex positivity is such an important part of identifying who you are as a person and I feel as though this event was not just a good time but also really shined light on everyone’s sex positivity.
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Spiderman is only for little boys? Event 1
During Thanksgiving break, I went down to Tampa Florida with
my parents to spend the holiday with family we have down there. On the Tuesday
before Thanksgiving, my cousins and I took a trip to Orlando and went to
Universal Studios. After you exit each
ride, you end up in a souvenir/gift shop and they are usually themed according
to the ride. The
one gift shop that surprised me was the Spiderman one. While I was waiting in
line for this ride, I noticed boys and girls of different ages waiting in line
as well. When the ride ended and we all
poured into the gift shop, I came across a tower of glass mugs each with names
across the bottom. What shocked me was the fact that only BOYS names were
written on the mugs and there were no girls’ names to be found. This held true
throughout the whole Spiderman gift shop.
Key chains as well also only had male names on them. When I walked out of the shop, I looked at my
cousins and said “What if I wanted a mug? I wouldn’t even be able to get one. Assholes”. They laughed and carried on but I was still
baffled over what I had seen. I thought back to some readings we had discussed
throughout the semester and related it to three that we have done.
In the
article Media and Ideology, Croteau discusses how Media influences society and
how it sets the “ideals” and “standards”. Media portrays a message to young
boys about being tough, brave and strong. Superheros are meant to attract the
young male population and influence the way they think or act. Never do I see a
female superhero, and if there are some out there, they aren’t nearly as
hyped up as Batman, Spiderman or Superman.
Clearly the Spiderman gift shop at Universal was targeting young boys
and completely left out the girls and I thought that was interesting since
young girls were also going on the ride and walking into the gift shop when it
was over. So is the gift shop suggesting
girls don’t like Spiderman or “aren’t supposed” to like Spiderman? What if a girl wanted a key chain or mug with
her name on it? One quote that I took from this article that I thought fit well
was "Media sells both products
and ideas, both personalities and worldviews; the notion that
mass media products and cultural views are fundamentally intertwined has gained
broad public acceptance”. I wish I could
go back in time and approach one of the workers in the gift shop and ask why
there weren’t any girl’s names anywhere in the store. By walking out not acknowledging
what I had seen, it relayed the message that I accepted what the shop had inside of
it and was okay by it. By every person walking out of that gift shop without
saying anything, it shows they accepted it as well.
In Kimmel’s “What Are Little
Boys Made Of?” article, he talks about how boys are taught to be tough, daring
and adventurous from a young age. Isn’t this exactly what Superhero’s are
portrayed as? Why aren’t girls taught the same thing? This leads me to the”
Cinderella Ate my Daughter” article by Orenstein. Instead of liking superhero’s, they are taught to
like princesses and want to live a princess lifestyle. I also noticed there was a gift shop aimed at
young girls and it was pink and sparkly and pretty. I’m sure if I were to have
walked in there, I wouldn’t have seen one thing meant for a boy. All of these articles went hand in hand since
they all have an underlying message of how society sets the standards for girls
and boys at such a young age.
I searched Spiderman
commercials and came across this one. Notice how there are only two little boys
and no girls playing with the toy. Also the voice over is quite “manly”.
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Mass Media and Ideology
Like other people in the class, this article was hard for me
to get through and confused me several times. So with the help of google I
found the definition of Ideology and was able to connect it to the media and
what their ideology is. Mass medias ideology is pretty much how a woman should
act, how a man should act, how parents, grandparents, students, pretty much how
everyone should live their day to day life. Victoria Secret super models came
to mind and how they portray themselves making other woman want to look and act
the same way as them. Media sells the public so many different types of things
that make us think that if we buy the product, our features and lifestyle will
change dramatically. Out of the daily commercials that come on TV, I can only
think of one that says to be comfortable in your own skin and that is the Dove commercial.
Like other blogs I have read, I also thought of the article “Cinderella
ate my Daughter”. The media portrays lifestyles such as princesses to be
perfect and that is how every child should live. It gives little girls the
belief or ideology that their life will really end up as a princess. In
Croteaus article, he states “Media sells both products and ideas, both
personalities and worldviews; the notion that mass media products and cultural
views are fundamentally intertwined has gained broad public acceptance”. If it
weren’t for television, people wouldn’t know what was acceptable or what would
even be considered “normal”. “Being normal” was probably defined by television
and god forbid if someone isn’t “normal” they are considered an outcast.
The media defines “normal” women as: Skinny, big busted,
perfect skin, perfect hair, wealthy, has a boyfriend (notice how girlfriend isn’t
considered “normal”), perfect family and traditions and values. THIS is a Barbie
figure. Even better, this is a princess.
I have seen Crest commercials daily basically saying that if your teeth
are perfect and white, you will end up with the man of your dreams. The Dove commercial
regarding being comfortable in your own skin barely gets any air play compared
to the commercials telling an individual how to look, act and feel.
All in all, I wish people were to pay more attention to the
ideology mass media is trying to portray. It’s everywhere we look whether we
want to see it or not.
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
OBAMA!
First off I have to say F*CK YESSSS OBAMAAAA!!!! Words
cannot describe how excited I am to have him as our president for the next four
years. Yesterday was my first voting
experience in a presidential election even though I’m 22. In 2008, there wasn’t
one candidate I felt strongly about so I decided not to vote but that’s beside
the point. As I stated in class I was SO STRESSED about this election. I had work last night and was so anxious to
get out and watch the votes being tallied.
I got out of work around 9:30 and raced home to watch the
news. On the way back my roommate called me saying Obama had just gotten ahead
but when I got home Romney was back on top. My anxiety was going through the
roof and my social media sites were going crazy. Between twitter and facebook
it was nonstop. At around 11:15 I saw someone post “OBAMA RE-ELECTED” on
twitter and I was so confused because nothing had been announced yet to my
knowledge. I switched the channel and
saw on MSNBC that the race was called even though Ohio was still up in the air and
Obama had won.
I jumped around my apartment and was screaming at the top of
my lungs I was so excited. I am so happy that I took part in this election and
Obama came out on top. I see a strong future for our country and I have a ton
of faith in Obama that he will do his absolute best to make the US prosper.
I was also happy with the turn out of the senate and the
other local politicians who were elected. I look forward to the next four years
and the changes that are yet to come!
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